And if you have a guy friend around, ask him…
I’m having a discussion with a guy friend, over this outfit (which yes, I now own!)
These jeans (yes, they have them now in my size and with coupons and deals, I got them 30.00 off)
And a similar and daintier shoe (slenderer heel, not as high, with a thinner toe strap)
This chemise in this color (bought on sale 10.00 cheaper
With this jacket that I already own.
So the ensemble looks kinda like this….
I think this is a nice, classy and sexy outfit. My friend says it makes him think – here, slide your hand in my pocket and pull out my library card.
Folks, I have NO where to go this holiday and even if I did, I think this is about the extent of going out sexy dressed I’m going to get. Maybe the symphony or art gallery…
what do you think???
zee's muse 
I think that looks classy in a casual way. Very nice. And I am not surprised about hands-in-pocket suggestions!
He would like to see me date. (we did a long time ago) and thinks I need to change my style of dressing. I’ve gained a LOT of weight since he and I dated, not to mention, 99% of the clothing I’ve purchased in the last 18 months has been work appropriate.
He would like to see me out of my comfort zone and trust me, this outfit IS out of my comfort zone because a) I can’t wear it to work and b) uhm…. strappy chemise I can’t wear by itself as they don’t make foundation garments in my size that are strapless.
So we’re going rounds….
Well, first of all it sounds good that there is a ‘guy friend’ who takes an interest!!! And secondly – maybe compromise? I can totally see how you wouldn’t like to leave your comfort zone on a first date. So wear something comfortable for that – and then the nice new outfit for a second outing?
First off, the guy friend is married and lives 12 hours away, which is a good thing. We’ve still managed to remain friends. I still have to hold him at arms length. He’s a flirt and that’s just how he is.
But he’s sent me pictures of what HE likes and it’s boobs hanging out and barely covered. I remember that well. Nope. Not happening.
Whoopsie. Yeah, ok, that rules him out – on both counts *hehe*.
Oh I think the world of him, but NOT in that way anymore!!!! We are VERY different people on VERY different paths. So yeah, he’s ruled out – lol!
I’m with you… at our age, boobs hanging out are just not cool. Little tease of cleavage, maybe, but beyond that I wouldn’t be comfortable. I like the new outfit. To me, it’s flirty without being obvious.
See! That’s my take on it. I’m trying to attract a classier gentleman than I have in the past. I’m tired of handsy, crude men you can’t take anywhere!
This does NOT include my male friends I’ve met in various places online, (That would include you, Jamie and Snowy.)
I like it – and I have no idea what he meant by his comment! I expect I’m being naive but I can’t tell if he liked the outfit or not 😂
Okay, I know you’re Helen and I don’t know WHY it’s changed your name. I swear WordPress is SOOOO weird!!!!
He likes the outfit, but not in a ‘this will attract a man’s attention’ way. Apparently, I’m supposed to dress like a sex bomb at my advanced age.
He thinks I’m too much woman to stay home and knit. Personally, I like to knit….
Hmm, Array – ok, not a bad name… 😂
You should dress in the way that gives you the most confidence! 😊
Like I said, I’m not going anywhere. This spring I might do an art gallery or the philharmonic. I’ve got a financial hole to dig out of. So I need no reason for smexy clothes…
Oh well.
If you’re into that style as a lady it looks awesome. I’m 46 and it would work well if it was my style. Zee, on you it would look amazing. It does fit the dressed relaxed yet sexy look you would pull of beautifully when you’d go out. If it was me I’d change the jeans to black, keep the top as is and change the jacket to black but still pair it with a comfy, strappy sandle.
My jacket IS black. and they had the jeans in a dark navy blue and silver foil, but I liked the pinky stuff! LOL!
I’m trying to pass off as a lady – lol. I know. I’m 56 and hanging my boobs out for everyone is so not me
Okay, first off I don’t like it when women (girls) have too much hanging out. ( Skimpy is okay atthe beach/pool if you’ve gotthe body for it. ) What I’m attracted to is feminine attire which what your friend is suggesting isn’t that imho.
Now to this particular outfit. I’m not a fan of this style of jeans but if they fit – not poured into – and you like them…
The top is fine and given my predilections I’d prefer it paired with an appropriate skirt. But again if you like the combo it’s more than acceptable.
Dressing as he suggests doesn’t attract the type of guy you need and deserve. Dress classy and feminine.
😊
Thank you!
I don’t wear skirts anymore. There is the whole, I don’t have a waistline so they don’t look good on me. They look matronly.
I like the jeans. They’re rolled up – which is a fad I DO not like, so mine will be rolled down. I also tend to wear leggings or jeggings, which are ‘skinny’ but not so tight in the booty that I look poured in. Regular cut jeans make me look wide and relaxed fit make me look gargantuan.
I suppose when all of this comes in, I”ll have to put it on and model it.
Thanks for your input. T. has been a friend for a LONG LONG time and we’ve been through a lot of good times and rough times. I know where he’s coming from and he’s coming from a place of – Zee, you do not need to be stayin’ home and becoming an crazy old cat lady. he knew me when I was thin and frisky!
I just don’t think dressing like a whore is going to get me anywhere with anyone for longer than 2 hours.