okay, so to be honest, I’m in a much better place today than I was yesterday.And I’ll be in a better place tomorrow than today.
Because yesterday was hell, today was my hell day and tomorrow is Friday.
You know what’s sobering? When you are crying your eyes out in the hallway and your son, who already has his share of challenges hugs you and not only starts praying for your peace of mind and healing of heart, but then prays that The Almighty would smack the immortal piss-fire out of the coward broke up with his mother via text!!!
Talk about cold. Like I said, I’m in a much better place today. I so believe in Kharma. And I truthfully believe that when God takes something out of your hands, he’s going to put something better in them!
This chick rocks the HELL out of break up tunes!
Either way, I’ve been participating in some retail therapy.
I have red pants this will look super cute with!
I don’t have this color and I love shark tail hems!
I’m in bad need of a black turtleneck.
They are telling us we’re in for a cold winter. We had a cold one last winter. Luckily, it only lasted about 6 weeks!
These are bought. I’m LOOKING at this…
Seeing how a large portion of their customers are plus size women, I wish they’d get a plus size model. This chick is a size 2.
A friend of mine wants to set me up with a friend of hers. He’s a professor at a college in the Carolinas and has a musical background. I just might. Truth is, I just want to clean my house, unpack my books and knit for a while, while I watch Berlin Station.
Yep. Much better place. I’m gonna be okay.
Have some Richard!
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very glad to read your optimistic outlook! I’m not usually a vindictive person, but your son’s prayer request has merit 😉
I decided when we first got together that if it didn’t work, I would be positive and wish him the best and all that. But I expected the same from him. Instead, I go from – I’m his soul-mate, his everything, the one he dreamed about for 30 years, the one who got away for months and then in 8 hours, he picks a fight, making a mountain over a molehill, and doesn’t speak to me for 3 weeks. He then contacts me over a bogus text I didn’t send and then decides, he can’t do long-distance and here’s a list of what needs to happen in order for us to be a couple. It included me relocating (not him, he’s not a ‘Georgia Boy’) and him not having to commit to anything. LIke I”m going to destroy my fragile, almost non-existent retirement, move somewhere where I’d make 5 to 7K less, live in an area that cost more than double what I have now and be 10 hours to my closest relative. My parents are elderly, not in the best of health, and he HONESTLY expected that? I sacrifice everything and he sacrifices nothing? He then stated, well I know you can’t move….
so what’s the point???
You know, this was probably God’s way of saving me from shitty sex anyhoo!
Breaking up by text — yeah, I’d say you’re well rid of the guy. And there’s nothing wrong with catching your breath.
I was in shock. This wasn’t something gradual. It happened in an instant. I don’t need that kind of fickleness. No one does.
The list of requirements that you quoted in the comments above, looks like a list of excuses, drawn up so that you can’t argue with his decision to back out of the relationship. Considering that he was the one who was pursuing you – all the phone calls and the meetings – it is just weird.
And yes, the universe closes one door – and opens another. It hurts like hell, of course, and I wouldn’t wish this on anybody. But it makes you get your priorities right. It’s good to see that you know what you want. That professor sounds promising!
PS: Eyecandy Richard makes everything better.
The sad thing is, had he actually CALLED me and said – we need to talk – and discussed his reservations with me, I probably would have been a LOT more understanding. But he didn’t. ANd the sad thing is, we were discussing my move. I had contacted the retirement system, to see how many years I had (I need 10. I though I had 7, I have 9.1. I’ll have 10 at the end of the school or contract year.) and then moving down. I thought that was a pretty much done deal. If not, I would make the move when I got my 10 years, Spawn would (hopefully) be done with college and I would have my masters. That was the plan. And considering how my year has already stacked up, I’m pretty unhappy and would have been willing to just pull up stakes, give Spawn the option of moving and transfering to a Florida College or moving back to his grandparents and re-entering his previous college.
And then he changed his mind and wasn’t man enough to tell me. Considering the bad luck I’ve had with men, this is like…. what? Really?
And his other ‘excuse’ was WE were in love with idea of Reconnecting, not really in love.
I’m so sorry YOU don’t get the difference between infatuation and love. And you were the one with the big fantasy of reconnecting. I was living my life. That’s all on you, bud.
Not so sure I want to jump back in again – I didn’t want to jump in to anything or anyone to begin with. I’ve joked on and off for years, he was the only one I’d consider it with. Oh boy. Guess I learned!
What a moron! You’re well rid of him. But what a bastard to do it that way 😡
Love those tunics and I couldn’t agree more about models! 🙄
oh man 😦 So sorry to hear that but you are a wonderful person and deserve so much better! Some respect to start with. Your son is the sweetest 🙂
I hope you can take a deep breath and try not to think about it too often. You’ve got a new life that you are building for yourself in nice place and you have people who matter who love you a lot.
Hope you’ll feel better every day and retail therapy is good 😉 I would like the red number were it not for the frills? I love the blue 🙂
Knitting sounds good and R eye candy is always excellent and meeting that prof sounds interesting down the line too.
Sending you a big big hug and good vibes!
The ‘frills’ is embroidery. It’s from a company called Holy Clothing. I LOVE their stuff! I have several pieces. I’ve bought the first 3 tunics, but I’ve not purchased that piece yet. They don’t take my credit card, so I either need to talk Spawn into doing the purchase and I’ll pay him back OR just go and get a pre-paid credit card on a company they accept.
Wow! Glad you are rid of him before you made the move! But you have better sense than that! Gish! That was weak! A text message? Really? SMH.
what does he think he is Lamar??? things will be better my friend.,karmas a bitch
I honestly believe he met someone else or one of his kids set him up with someone else and as they’re closer and ‘easily accessible’…. which is still pretty lame.
Thanks for the Richard and also for the Miranda. Both always make me feel better! My fave Miranda song is “Crazy Ex Girlfriend”. Saw her once opening for Alan Jackson — have to say that she was way more exciting! One feisty chick. Hope you pick yourself back up pretty quickly. Enjoy Berlin Station.
Hey by the way, the subscribe button doesn’t work on your blog. Clicking on it just brings up some code. There’s a follow button that works but it’s only to be notified of comments on that day’s post.
I don’t know what to tell you. This particular brand of Social Media eludes me. No sooner than I figure it out, they ‘update’ it and God Forbid you go to the forum to get some answers. There is no customer service and the people manning the forum are rude! I won’t go back.
I’ve had problems for several weeks – for some odd reason, the application blocked all incoming email for me and when I finally figured it out and unblocked it, I’m now getting a load of notifications for one post. It’s even notifying me when I post. And all of a sudden I realize that I haven’t gotten any posts today. Means I better go back and look.
I’m just stupid. Don’t know what to tell you. 😦
Oh well. I’ll keep checking in once in a while then. Thanks for answering.
Try now. WP updated their site a few weeks back and undid everything I’ve had set up
you might be able to remove that Subscribe button from your sidebar if it’s a Widget, and replace it with a “Follow Blog/Subscribe by e-mail” one instead. you can access your sidebar/Widgets by going to the dropdown menu at the top of this screen by hovering over the “my sites” title. click on “WP Admin” (this takes you to your Dashboard). hover over “appearance” on the menu on the left, then click on “widgets”. that should show you what is currently in your sidebar, with an arrow next to each item containing settings. on the left of the page should be a whole collection of Widgets that you can drag up to your sidebar area.
This is unreal. A month ago, all this stuff was there and available. People were able to follow me, etc. And now everything is turned off?
I want the head of the idiot who did this…
Well, there is a follow button now, but I would have to create an account in WordPress to follow. Does that make sense that that’s the only way? And will that send me email notifications of new posts? (I know you may not know the answer, but maybe one of your other readers does.)
P.S. My family got “treated” to me singing very loudly to “Crazy Ex Girlfriend” while making dinner yesterday, thanks to you reminding me how much I enjoy Miranda! (The family doesn’t get country music at all.)
Just for info, by the way, when I comment here, below it says “Notify me of new comments by email”. When I comment on other blogs, below it has that same thing but it also has “Notify me of new posts by email”. Maybe that will help figure what’s missing?
I would click on that. I got email for a blog here for well over a year and just realized about a month ago, I didn’t FOLLOW the blog, I just had clicked the notify me of new posts. Go figure that.
I’m a classically trained pianist, music teacher, the whole 9 yards. My family doesn’t get my love for country music either.
I took classical piano for 9 years, choir, singing lessons and was a teen in the ’70s with all the rock bands. I love a lot of that too, but what touches my heart most is country. Have you heard Dwight Yoakum’s new bluegrass version of Prince’s Purple Rain? Pretty cool.
NO I haven’t! But I’ll have to go hunt it up. (Mostly these days, I listen to work related music. So lots of BAG recorder and The Pumpkin March.)
Wow, yeah, I’d be more than snarky! The nerve to break up via text! He certainly showed his true colors, didn’t he? Best thing to be rid of him. Coward… I’m so sorry you have to deal with this shit.
Music & retail & Richard therapy sounds like just thing.